Unexpected Inspiration

Power Your Happy

My good friend Chhayal randomly sent me a book in the mail because she was thinking of me. Yes, I am lucky to have such a friend! The book she gave me titled Power Your Happy by Lisa Sugar is autographed. Bonus! I have a treasured autographed books collection. I know, e-books are convenient, etc., but there’s something special about a hardcover book. I scanned the teaser on the back of the book and was intrigued to start reading it. I began with the Introduction and related to the content so strongly, that I was unable to put the book down! 2016 was a bummer of a year, to say the least having two significant surgeries. Friends recommended a variety of uplifting books for me to read, but I just wasn’t in the mood or open to sunshine and rainbows subject matter. I am not sure if it was the topic of the book, timing or a combination, but I am very happy that I didn’t set it aside. Lisa’s words sparked a fire in me! I readjusted both my personal and career goals, and I now have a fresh outlook and plans for how to achieve these new goals. I didn’t want to mark the book with a highlighter since it’s autographed, so I tabbed all my favorite parts. As you can see from the photo, there are A LOT of tabs!

I recommend you buy and read Power Your Happy, but here are a few excerpts…

“…what you find yourself doing in your spare time is the passion you should pursue. Don’t decide what you want to do with your life; let your life tell you what your path is.”
[This statement helped to take the pressure off the question family and friends frequently ask me — what is my dream job? — by shifting my focus on my passions as a guide to the answer instead of an overwhelming black hole of possibilities.]

“S*** happens — to everyone! You don’t deserve special treatment because you are having a bad day. … It’s how you grow from these catastrophes, big and small, that shape you into who you become.”
[Reading this tough love statement helped me snap out of my pity party.]

“May we walk forward with compassion in our hearts and may we replace jealously with joy. And at the end of the day, always remember that all that you need is vision to see where you are going, strength to get you there, and faith that you will end up exactly where you deserve to be.” – Ian McAndrew, Lisa’s SoulCycle instructor

Gal on the Go 2.0

When I got married I thought it would be forever, not because I had delusions of grandeur, but because my husband and I both came from divorced households and we thought we learned from the mistakes of our parents. Fast-forward 7,297 days later to the end. My husband and I separated and of course it’s something I NEVER expected. You go about your life and then a curve ball heads your way and knocks you down. I went through all the typical phases … sadness, anger, mourning, scared of unknowns ahead, etc. Three of my girlfriends helped me pack on Christmas Eve of 2014. (Friends who help you pack, especially on the night of a holiday are GOOD friends!) Two days later I moved into an apartment. I hadn’t lived in an apartment since my early 20s. The first few months were a whirlwind and I felt like I was living in a hotel, then one day my apartment suddenly felt homey. I was going through A LOT between the divorce and other life events, and the reality of them hit me at odd times causing me to have many tearful moments. Along the way, I discovered who my true friends are — those who have been there to take my random calls and texts any time of day or night when I needed someone the most versus those who haven’t had any time to spare or worse, used my personal business as their own gossip fodder. On September 10 my divorce became final. Given all the time and legal c**p involved, I thought it would feel different in ways I can’t explain. Instead, it just felt like OK, now I’m divorced, bring on the next life adventure! I’m currently in the process of preparing to move to shorten my commute and improve my quality of life. This past year bad days seemed frequent and time felt like an eternity; at the same time I can’t believe that 2015 will soon be over! I’m sad leaving an apartment that’s hard for me to believe once felt sterile. During my time here I took up bike riding and immersed myself in my community cruising around town to my local gym, favorite mom and pop businesses like HighGrain Bread Company and more. I have been reflecting on my own advice of “Use your fears to become fearless.” I’m doing my best to navigate life, move forward and apply the quote by facing the unknowns with excitement rather than fear. Gal on the Go 1.0 underwent a lot of life debugging in 2015. Gal on the Go 2.0 is an upgrade and looks forward to being better than ever in 2016!